Dating several guys same time
It's Not What You Say, It's How You Say It Most people you meet are prepared for you to do something shitty to them. But there's a big difference between a bad thing done poorly and a bad thing done well.
L, a friend I can only describe as having advanced degrees in the science of online dating, says, "My personal experience is that people don't worry about what is happening as much as they do how it is happening.
It was jarring to find out that our great aunt had basically spent her youth as the whore of Babylon. You're going to date Veronica _and _her best friend A lot of my friends, male and female, followed this kind of "Medieval Courtly Love, With Blowjobs" model well into college, like knights and ladies with bitterly divorced parents.
More and more people I know prefer dating a bunch of people to one; you can be suspended in a kind of single-but-not animation that used to be reserved for old bachelors of indeterminate sexual orientation, and not be considered a jerky health risk.
Dating is really just a string of dicey etiquette questions, but how do you talk to the person you're dating about the other people you're dating? With online dating becoming more and more popular, it's only going to become increasingly common to see these questions come up, and, honestly, they should!
What do I say to a partner when things are starting to get more serious with that other person?
The problem is that I really like both of them and they both seem to be really amazing guys.
They follow up, they text, we talk, make plans…it’s all good. On the other hand, I don’t know how to manage this.
I talked to people who are living/have lived the three-Internet-dates-a-week life, and distilled their advice into some basic rules of thumb.